I'm going to take some heat because this opinion is unpopular. I am going to be classified as cheap but whatever. When a guy and a girl are going out, the guy can be expected to treat his girlfriend from time to time, but not all the time. It's not a cut and dry money thing, guys just don't want to feel like they are being taken advantage of. I'm sure just about everyone feels that they have been used for free meals at time, or that in some instances they are indirectly paying for sex. This is an awful feeling for most. However, I am convinced that most women are not taking advantage of guys for free meals but rather they would like you to take care of them. They want to feel special and that someone likes them enough to buy them a meal or take them to a movie. I am starting to understand this and when you are dating its expected that a man pays a greater deal, he drives to see you, and whatever.
When a male and female are in a relationship the female should start to pick up some slack. I'm not saying she has to buy dinner, but she should surprise her boyfriend with tickets to a game, pay for a movie from time to time, drive to see you…..contribute. Eventually it should become a two way street. I will not tolerate being the sole provider, Mrs. Degrees are not offered here. Chivalry and catering to the girl's wants from time to time are nice things to do but reciprocation is necessary.
The 60/40 rule has a nice ring to it, but its not in stone. Guys can expect to pay more often, and drive more often, and maybe even make more money but don't take advantage because I'm allowing a 60% threshold.
They want to have their cake and eat it too. Don't be clamoring that women don't get enough respect in the world when you're sitting on your hands every time the check comes. So you want to play the independent woman role, college educated and employed and whatnot? Great, that means you're also allowed to make the beer run or go pick up the food order every now and again, instead of laying under your blankets complaining about how cold it is outside.
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